What comes after the separation, the breakup of the couple or the divorce? The future looks uncertain, dark and sad … What can you expect?
What will be the life of a woman after a separation or divorce? How can you continue with your life, after spending many years with a man who is no longer with her? Can we keep going, when dreams, promises, and family projects are left aside?
And, what about the love that still exists in your heart, after the break? Or when she gets tired of being a homework assistant? How many questions do you have in the mind of that lady who gave her best and is now alone, adrift, without that partner? What to do after a loving bond is over?
Some of these questions sound a little exaggerated. I know. But when a woman separates or divorces as a result of love ending up on her man’s part, or because the relationship is unsustainable, she often falls into the drama of believing that her life is over, that all the years were spent in vain, that that gentleman only played with her and from now on no one else is going to laugh in her face.
We dramatized too much:
Let’s recognize: The pain of mourning, makes the female soul a victim and dramatic, as if the protagonist of a Mexican novel possessed her. I know, while we are living that moment everything seems black, dark, we even think we are so important that we think the world is against us. But at a distance, with elaborate pain, what seemed like a nightmare, is only a memory of another story, from which we can surely capitalize on valuable learning.
So, they left you? Did they deceive you? Does not he love you more?
What you are living has a solution. The pain right now is very big and painful; but it’s like pinching your fingers with a door, at that moment it hurts terrible, but it ends up happening.
You are not the same as before the break:
After the breakup of a relationship, the first thing you should consider is that you are no longer the same. You’re not the woman in that relationship, because that woman you were is already finished with the relationship. You are a new woman with the experience of something that broke and you can at least do two things, stay to mourn over the broken pieces, or pick them all up and build yourself.
Everything happens, everything is overcome:
As impossible as it seems to you, everything in life is ephemeral, and everything is overcome. It depends on how much time you want to suffer, you can say that you love it too much or that no one understands you; Even with those explanations this will also happen.
We must move forward:
Knowing this, it is time to put a plan in motion, nothing better for your ego than to have projects and reach them. What do you want to do from now on? What is missing in your life? What do you want? Answered these questions, you will have a path to follow that will strengthen your soul, even so, there will be days of those fearsome kilos of ice cream and crying, but I assure you that they will be the least.
Work hard and adapt:
In your new path you will experience new ways of being, that is why it is extremely important that you integrate yourself into those activities that have always filled you with endorphins. They say that when women separate they get prettier as revenge, I think it is because they now have a free time that they can dedicate themselves, that is, that the genuine mistake is in forgetting you when you have been in a couple.
Take care of yourself:
Think about what things you have set aside, and throw yourself at them. The end of a marriage or engagement does not imply a failure, it only corresponds to that: that something ended, and that is life, that are cycles.
Choose to dress with things that you like, exercise, read, look for activities that motivate you. Also, renounce the idea of staying alone to believe that you already know all men.
Let yourself be led by life, dream, play, conquer, dare to be that woman who lived in seclusion, ask your friends to introduce you to friends, meet other men, let the world discover you, and when you are ready, throw yourself into love. It is always a wonderful experience, now do not pretend that it is eternal, nothing is eternal for mortals.
If you can overcome the idea that the worst of the world is what is happening to you, you can solve the loss in a kind way, and after the separation, you will find that there is a life waiting for you.